Are You Up For Some Tough Lovin’?

Do you believe in honesty as the best policy? So when you are approached with the question “do I look fat in this” which stand will you take?

The absolute truth – Yes, You Do.
The noncommittal – You Look Great.
The absolute lie – No, You Don’t.

If you were the one asking the question, where do you fit in?

Tell me what I want to hear – No, You Don’t.
Praise Empowering – It’s Okay, You Still Look Great.
Tell me how it is – Yes, You Do.

Looking fat is a state of mind. It is a reverb of society’s opinion and glorification process and that is why we always need that constant reminder of the “right” answer from our peers as we manipulate the truth in order to still fit the mold of acceptable.

But by not telling the truth as it is, are we hurting each other? Avoidance of the truth can lead towards a downhill path that could spiral out of the control at any given moment in time. Acceptance of the problem is considered to be an important step before we can advance towards healing ourselves and ultimately losing weight.

If the reaction to the answer to the question elicits a whine, then tell them to do something about it.